It’s Official: Shad Moss & Keyshia Cole are Dating

Okay so are y’all ready for this one? We’re coming from left field with it so be prepared.

Remember we posted that photo of Shad Moss (Bow Wow) and his new “special lady?” The one he dropped on Twitter and captioned, “head rubs are he best” and left everyone guessing who this new special lady was giving him the bed rubs?

What if we told y’all we’ve confirmed and know who she was?!

A few of y’all guessed it right the first time — Ms. Keyshia Cole. Yes, chile!

So when the picture went up, comments and rumors started going crazy. We did some digging and now that we think about it, Shad sure was dodging fans’ questions on Twitter about a new romance between him and Keyshia. Maybe a denial is just that–a denial BUT a very close and trustworthy source spilled the tea just minutes ago and let’s just say it may be appropriate to start playing with a Shad Moss and Keyshia Cole hashtag. Check out female mind mastery.

We’re thinking #KeyShad… What y’all think!?

Anywho, so apparently the two have known each other for a very long time, and just recently connected on a different level when they crossed paths at a club!

The two have been taking it very slow, according to the source, but apparently Bow Wow is head over heels for Keyshia, and I’m talking sprung, but

Keyshia on the other hand likes Shad too but is just taking things slow, since she is still legally married.

Stop Asking if My 4-Year-Old Has a ‘Girlfriend’

My father isn’t the first person to ask my son if he has a girlfriend. The question pops up frequently when we’re visiting friends of my mother’s over the holidays or talking to affable cashiers at the supermarket. It’s always asked in the same way — with genial good humor and an air of expectation, as if they already know the answer.

My son typically responds with a blank stare — not, it should be noted, the aggressively vacant stare I cultivated in my 20s to discourage the apparently benign interest of family and friends in my romantic life, but an actual stare of incomprehension.

He doesn’t understand the question because he’s 4 years old. Five months ago, he started prekindergarten. Three weeks ago he learned how to calculate seven minus five on his hands. Yesterday, he had a dry overnight diaper for the fifth morning in a row.

Unable to let the moment play out, I jump in with an answer: Yes, I say, he has girl friends and boy friends. He has, in fact, lots of friends.

I say it calmly and pleasantly, with a polite smile that reveals nothing of how I truly feel about this question — this ludicrous question that follows little children around like a puppy sensing scraps. I understand that it’s just the meaningless chatter of adults trying to make conversation with children. I get that their intentions are 100 percent harmless.

And yet every time this question is posed, I hear insidious rumblings. I hear heteronormative expectation: You’re a boy, so naturally, you’ll like girls. I hear the gender indoctrination: Girls aren’t like boys, so you should treat them differently. I hear the premature insertion of sexual politics: Girls aren’t your friends; they’re potential objects of desire.

In this one seemingly innocuous query, I hear one generation imposing on the next one its resolute idea of How Things Are.

And these messages aren’t confined to well-meaning relatives and kindly salesclerks. If only this were a battle being fought on one front. Alas, the global entertainment complex seems to have joined forces with my mom’s college roommate’s husband to provide furtive lessons on how young boys and girls should interact. The G-rated “Peanuts Movie,” for example, which is not only aimed at 4-year-olds but is also, according to one of the early “Peanuts” comic strips from 1950, about 4-year-olds, has more romantic entanglements than an episode of “The Love Boat.” Charlie Brown blushes and stammers around the girl he’s crushing on, the cute little redhead who lives next door, while Peppermint Patty pines away for him in unrequited love. His sister, Sally, ardently pursues Linus, her “sweet babboo” (a term, incidentally, that Charles M. Schulz’s own wife actually called him). Lucy throws herself at Schroeder. Even Snoopy — a dog! — models romantic behavioral standards by courting a beautiful poodle named Fifi.

Why do we do this? Why do we endlessly replicate mature patterns for young audiences? Are we, like the men chasing the maidens on Keats’s Grecian urn, locked forever in “mad pursuit”? Do we instinctively reach for the same worn blueprint, or do we collectively make the choice to pass it along?

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Things You’ll Understand If You’re Dating A Picky Eater

You get to eat the bits they pick out of their food. And it’s unlikely that they’ll fancy trying whatever you’re eating. Asking “what do you want?” when you go to get food always has a longer answer than you’d anticipate. Although in time you’ve practically memorized some of their more complicated orders.

When it comes to anniversaries, fancy restaurants with limited menus are completely out of the question. You start to become genuinely upset on your S.O’s behalf when they order food but it has their dreaded ingredient in it. So to eliminate this risk, they end up being responsible for deciding where to eat on date nights. And if you choose somewhere, it will involve a lot of online research. But you both have to make an effort to ensure you don’t go to the same place every time.

Cooking at home proves to be a lot easier for everyone. But the first time was probably a little bit nerve wracking. No matter how long you’ve been together, you’re always finding out about food you didn’t realize they disliked.

And sometimes you find them out through trial and error. Ordering half-and-half pizzas is the only logical option for you two. And when it comes to giving gifts, a big bar of their favourite chocolate is always a much safer option than getting a variety box.

You know better than to use the “just try a little bit of mine, you might like it” line. But you know when they do try a new food it’s a huge deal. And when a new food becomes one of their favourites, it’s even better.

Although it might just turn out they only like something when you make it.

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